Written by Thien Van Tran
There
are certain encounters in our lives that we know will never be repeated as long
as we live. The exhilaration we felt when we had our first kiss, the awe we
experienced when we saw the Grand Canyon, the nausea that overcame us after
seeing the first Saw movie. Then there are other encounters that we just let
slip by unnoticed.
The
times that I regret the most are missed opportunities to say farewell to good
friends, to wish them long, abundant lives. Like many others, I loathe goodbyes
and do all I can to avoid experiencing them. I’d rather cover myself in honey
and go on a bear watch. Usually a “later dude” will escape my lips accompanied
by thoughts and intentions of reuniting at a later time filling my head. But
that time may never come.
While
out celebrating and causing mischief a few nights ago with friends, this
possibility of permanent separation still had not hit me. Not until a friend
whispered to me, “This cannot be the last time I see you.”
Her
words were a swift kick to the crotch. While everyone around me continued to
dance and sing and make bad decisions, I stood there dumbfounded. Tears grew
out of nowhere and my mood changed from stupidly happy to sad. I realized that
I was about to leave my dearest of friends with nothing more than a sincere “later
dude.”
Don’t
let your friends disappear into memories. Take time off from studying and enjoy
a bacon latte with your best friend. Put homework on pause to catch up with
someone in the midst of a busy semester. Talk to that pretty girl you’ve been wanting
to. Ask that guy to formal with you. How much time should you devote to school
and life and work? I have no clue. It’s not black and white, and will be
different for each person. It’s quite grey, at least 50 shades of grey (if you
know what I mean).
So
my advice to you is this: stop once in a while and appreciate what you have
here. All these people who have come from all over the country, all over the
world, to be part of your life should not be taken for granted. We are all here
to go to school and get a degree and find a job, but take some time to truly
experience it. Living life is like cooking. In order to do well, you must pay
attention to the process, the little details.
After
all, the journey is more important than the end or the start. And to my friends, I thank you all, and farewell. I await our next encounter.